"So David Bowie IS coming to your wedding?" or how to plan your wedding in 1001 super-stressful steps.

by Stephanie Gilmartin


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I may as well start of by sharing some pictures from my wedding board on Pinterest. I will say that the first thing my mum said when I shared it with her was "I don't GET it. Is David Bowie coming to your wedding? What is with all the neon? Do you want it to look like a children's party?" and other things to that effect. All I can say is, I WISH, I like neon lights, and it won't look like a children's party because I will have a dress and a veil and I'll be getting married to James.

I wasn't really expecting to have to explain it to anyone, but of course the first thing anyone will ask you is what your colours are, and what will you use to decorate, and blahblahblahblahblah. I know our mums just want to help, but WOW it is hard to explain your creative thought process to anyone else, and it's not really something I've ever enjoyed (I like creating, just not justifying why my mind has come to whatever "weird", "quirky" or "downright horrible" conclusion it has).

It made sense to me to gather together some things that I didn't hate, because then, I thought, I couldn't get sick of them. I am also not at all traditional, and apparently never have been - my aunt tells a story of my mum taking me shopping for black school shoes, and me insisting that I didn't want anything but lime green chukkas. Plus ca change. 

If you haven't thought of a venue, don't even both thinking about anything else. I have replanned the entire thing about 8 times as I changed venues in my head, and it was 100% different every time.

What that means is that your mind becomes really scattered and you end up liking elements of different weddings and then trying to mash them all together like a horrible Pinterest jigsaw. In fact, you start to hate Pinterest because you fear that you will see something amazing too late/it will be too expensive/someone else will have stolen your idea. In fact I worry I will end up like the personification of Pinterest from this New Yorker article, shared by our friend Alex today on Facebook (I won't lie, we did a test run with helium balloons and one had a tiny hole, so James and I inhaled loads of it so we could speak in funny voices and we still feel a bit weird four days later).

So that the pictures are explained, in some measure, I'll start with the above - I have a big print of David Bowie's Aladdin Sane picture in our bedroom from the V&A exhibition, which I absolutely love (Aladdin Sane was inspired by Bowie's brother Terry, who was diagnosed with schizophrenia, as a pun on "a lad insane"). My favourite colour in the print is the metallic blue of his facepaint, and I thought I might like some shoes in that colour. Then I was thinking of "Let's Dance", and red shoes dancing the blues, which led me naturally to the film The Red Shoes, and also the Wizard of Oz (another wee print I have from the V&A, from their costume exhibition). So far all the wires are connecting in my head but not... in anyone else's. You see how this becomes hard to explain?

The big snag, though, was that I didn't want a colour scheme of red and blue, because it reminds me of the union jack, and the Royal family, so uh... no. I've always loved the ballet, and tulle (see this secret wedding Pinterest board I made, before I ever contemplated getting engaged... yes, men, all of your girlfriends probably have one of these. I'm not kidding). You see where this is going? TOO many influences.

Another thing that's fun to do is stalk other peoples' weddings and pillage them for ideas. Looking at our photographer's website, I got a bit obsessed with this one . I also couldn't get over how many cool Jewish weddings there were (I once saw one at the new St Pancras hotel, and they didn't mess about - from the cars to the flowers, it was all very impressive). This one was a particular favourite for the thought they put in to all the little details, and for proving that you don't need an all-encompassing theme. I also love this one because the wedding dress is to. die. for. Sadly, at time of writing, Valentino had nothing similar otherwise I almost certainly would have bought it (maybe it's lucky, since it probably saved a fair bit of the honeymoon budget).

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I love all the colours and the flowers above and I also love Frida Kahlo (did you see her amazing, recently-discovered outfit collection? Hello honeymoon trousseau inspiration), but I was a little bit concerned about having "Day of the Dead" as a wedding theme (seems like the wrong celebration, somehow...). I can still take inspiration from the colours and the floral headpieces, though.

Then, I looked at some more Pinterest. And got really bored. And thought, there is hardly a wedding where you can see the man's input. It's all done by the women, and some of them come out so twee and princessy that the poor husband gets completely lost in the proceedings. We have a really equal relationship (I bought James a bike after he bought me an engagement ring) so I couldn't really see us having a wedding that was all about me. Granted, James is not interested in colours or table decorations, and I wasn't up for having a gaming or fishing-themed wedding, but I could see there might be some compromise.

Then one night we watched The Life Aquatic.

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Now granted, you can't theme your whole wedding around The Life Aquatic, or indeed any Wes Anderson film, without it being incredibly twee. But you can definitely use it to adjust your colour scheme and maybe inform some of you decor, because why not? Also, all of their uniforms centre around blue and red - and the soundtrack is full-on Bowie, albeit in Portugese (and we're going to Lisbon as the first stop on our honeymoon! What's not to love here?). I love that I found someone else online who has the same-way-inclined mind that I do - it made me feel a bit less odd! 

It re-enamoured me with blue and red or at least very bright orange, so I went about designing invitations in those colours. We ended up with a pair of swans with orange beaks floating on a blue sea, and after hand-painting 50 of them I think I gave up forever because I didn't even remember to take a picture of one (thankyou dear friends who instragrammed them so I have some visual record! :)

Now all that really remains is to decorate the room and the cakes - which I will be leaving in the very capable hands of Bakery 47. In fact, I'm off to email them now! 

In the sketch I drew of the venue and tables, I had replaced a picture of theirs I don't like much with my David Bowie print. Mum said, oh, so David Bowie IS coming to your wedding then? 

Yes mum, I suppose he is.

                                                             From here - Martha Stewart Weddings has some really amazing ideas!

                                                             From here - Martha Stewart Weddings has some really amazing ideas!